Forgiveness: the Search for Inner Healing

One of the biggest causes for dis-ease is lack of forgiveness. Now, you may say that there is no one who has hurt you, or you can’t think of anyone you need to forgive, or you already have forgiven and there’s nothing left for you to do—but have you really, completely forgiven on all levels? Do you have anger, consciously or even subconsciously, at yourself for causing or not being able to control what happened or remove the issue? Do you have anger at the source or person (if there is one) for causing you this pain? What about anger at the problem itself for existing and not going away? Or, even perhaps even anger at God who has somehow allowed this drama to happen?

At the end of the day, one cannot attain inner peace and inner healing without first letting go of the anger and resentment that surrounds the situation. When we choose not to forgive, energetically all of the pent up negative thoughts and emotions—especially anger and resentment—get stuck in the back solar plexus chakra and affect the body, the chakras, meridians and cells, potentially causing a variety of physical and psychological ailments. In the past decade, there has been an increase in mind-body medical research and studies that correlate negative emotions to health ailments like high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease and back pain.

There are many layers to forgiveness, like peeling away layers of an onion. When you forgive, it doesn’t matter if the other person or the situation deserves your forgiveness or not! It doesn't matter if you don't ever want to talk to the person again or if they deserve to have a relationship with you of any kind in the future. When you forgive, you do it because it helps YOU and sets YOU free. It helps you sleep better at night, too, because you aren't replaying the drama, aren’t thinking constantly about the issue over and over in your head. This is what is known as inner forgiveness. Inner forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. It’s all about you.

People tend to say “they don’t deserve to be forgiven” but it has nothing to do with that. It’s about releasing them for yourself so you can have the inner healing needed for that issue. Some people may be afraid of what their lives may feel like if they really let go of the anger. Some have defined themselves by their anger to the point where it has become the thing they meditate on. No one ever said that meditation was always around peaceful, blissful topics. Just imagine: how would your life change, what would you think about, who would you be if you were to let go of the anger?

For some people, inner forgiveness is enough. For others, the next layer of forgiveness is external forgiveness: choosing to move on and create a healthier relationship with the person who has hurt you. This level of forgiveness usually can only be achieved after inner forgiveness, and only if you decide to continue a relationship of some sort with that person. It is not as necessary as doing the work for inner forgiveness.

Regardless of whether you are pursuing inner or outer forgiveness, you may want to considering praying and asking God to assist in the healing process. Are you okay with allowing the appropriate amount of inner healing to happen right now? If so, the following Forgiveness Prayer is a wonderful tool for surrendering energetic ties and connections to the situation or person.

Forgiveness Prayer
(Excepts from GrandMaster Choa Kok Sui’s Forgiveness Prayer)

"Dear God, thank you for helping me to forgive ______."

Picture that person in front of you and put your hands on your heart like you are praying because it's easier to forgive when your heart is activated. With hands on your heart, say....

“We are all children of God. We all make mistakes. We are all learning and growing, and in the process of evolving. Evolution implies that this happens over time. I know you were just doing the best you could at the time, and so was I. The important thing is that we learn our lessons and choose to do better next time. I forgive you release you from playing this role for me. For God loves the good. God loves the not so good. God loves the bad. God loves the terrible. God loves you. God loves me. God loves us all. From my soul to your soul, I forgive you. I forgive you for ______, _________, _______ (you may go into specific events, emotions, memories, etc that need to be released if you like)."
Be still, be aware. Then close by saying,

"Thank you for forgiving me as well. May God bless you with tremendous healing, love, health, prosperity, mercy, compassion, understanding and whatever you may need. God's blessings be with you. Go in peace."

Lastly, and most importantly, picture a cord between the two of you. Remove your hands from the prayer position over your heart and picture an invisible energetic cord between the two of you and cut the cord. This helps to disperse the energy and to let go at a deeper level. You will probably need to repeat this several times (3 or more times is advisable), especially if it is a deep wound. You can say this prayer, write it out or use a combination of both. It doesn't matter how you do it, just let it out in the most appropriate way for you.

Remember: regardless of whether you are pursuing inner or outer forgiveness, give thanks to God for allowing you to forgive for the amount that is appropriate for you at this given moment. Then release and let go. Let the past be the past.

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